Sunday, May 11, 2008

I Hate Mother's Day

There. I said it. I hate Mother's Day. For years I hated it because I wasn't a mom. I tried so hard for years and nothing. I lost my first pregnancy at 10 weeks on May 1, 1997 and week later was Mother's Day. I cried a lot and I'm not a crier~ask my BFFs, they'll tell you. Then later after I was granted temporary earthly possession of my babies, I hated Mother's Day because I didn't have my mom. I miss her. She should be here to laugh at her granddaughters falling into the pond (story for another blog) She should be here to yell at me for not watching her granddaughters and allowing them to fall into said pond. I miss having a mom. I have a great stepmom. Judy has been a great addition to our family~she truly has a gift of being a grandma to my kids without making me feel as if I can't miss my own mom. She has never once tried to mother me~which I appreciate SO much cuz I really don't like to be told what to do. (I needed to add that in case anyone was unaware!) Today I hated Mother's Day b/c it was the same as any other day. I got up and made the kids breakfast while Tim slept. I put them all to bed and did 90% of what happened in between. No rest for me! Amelia and Greta fought all evening, Wyatt fussed and refused to sleep and Caroline "forgot" her homework that is due tomorrow. Ugh. Would I trade back to Mother's Day 1997? Nope. Not in a minute.

7 comments:

mommy to an angel said...

Sorry you hate Mother's day :-(

My day was spent much the same way! I don't know what I'd do if there was actually a day where I didn't have to do anything - it's just not possible.

Anonymous said...

My mother's day was just as rotten. I am not a fan of that particular holiday either. My husband didn't even have my kids make me a card!

Ann(ie) said...

=( I'm sorry, honey. I don't think I'd like it under those circumstances either and I know I'd want to avoid the whole thing if I didn't have my own mom with me. I still get the royal treatment b/c Ben is only 17 months old and I scare my hubby. ;) I have no doubt things will eventually change. xo.

mommy24 said...

After 17 years of not having a mom here, I've learned to enjoy m-day again. I had to do the cooking for the in-law family, but we made shish-ka-bobs and made it a family affair...the kids thoroughly enjoyed cutting up all the different meats and veggies. I was amazed at their cooperation! Sorry that your day was uneventful.

Mommy Brain said...

You suck! You didin't have to cook or clean up the dishes! Got to see a good friend after a long while and started to plan your summer vacation!

I know you miss your mom

...but some of us did try to make the day special for you!

Carol said...

It was good to see you, Jen... and I thought of you and Dave missing your moms dearly - especially this past Sunday. I can't imagine - it must suck. I think that on Father's Day, Tim should make breakfast and put the children to bed!! ;]

Heaven Sent said...

So sorry about your mom. That has to be hard.

If it helps, I didn't get much rest either and took care of the girls like any other day. What's up with that?!

I hope next year is better for you (hint, hint Jen's hubby...)